Our Husband's Helper

God created Adam and put him in the garden to cultivate it and keep it.  Then God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone:  I will make him a helper suitable for him."  Then God made every creature, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him.  (Gen. 2:4-23 NASB)  So God created Eve, to be Adam's helper.

There are a lot of views out there describing the relationship between a husband and wife.  Who is the leader of the home?  Who works?  Roles?  Respect? Parenting duties?  Who cleans?  Cooks? 

Women continue to fight for the right to work and take on more and more roles.  Why?  I can only generalize  the reasonings behind women's motives.


What did God call woman when He created her?  "Helper suitable for the man."  Why is that such a bad thing?  I figure since God created us, He should know what makes us tick.  Helper.  That is very specific.  We were made to be a helper. God created us just for our man.  Together we become one flesh.  I like that visual.

With that thought in mind, why are women struggling to be more than that or different than that or to be the man.  I find the woman's role to be hard enough without taking on the man's role.  It should be a partnership like no other.  Because together husband and wife are one flesh, unable to seperate.

I find life to be peaceful and secure when I let my man lead.  When I embrace my role as a helper.  The system works and it works well.

Now if you were to ask our children who's in charge, there is debate.  My oldest daughter Jessie says I am in charge and my son Logan stands firm and says that Jim is in charge.  The youngest Becca "Boo"  says I am in charge but then whispers in her daddy's ear that she thinks he is in charge too.  But when we break it down, they all agree I am in charge of the laundry, cooking, cleaning, soccer practice, homework and singing/dancing in the kitchen.  Jim is in charge of working, owning and running two businesses, outside chores, bills, handing out chores for the kids, taking care of his family and wrestling after dinner. 

But now that Jim got me a housekeeper I don't have to be in charge of cleaning anymore.  Sounds good to me!